Erin Whidden: Why I Am Pro Life

    To answer this simply, I am pro-life because I respect human life. The pro-life/pro-choice debate, however, is not a simple one, so I’ll explain my personal stance on the issue in depth.

 

   When I say that I am pro-life because Irespect human life, I mean that I believe every human being comes into existence for a reason, and that human life is not disposable. Though I am religious, and though my religious views do play a role in my pro-life stance (I am a Methodist Christian), this belief isn’t based on Biblical teachings, but rather my own personal way of thinking. In my mind, regardless of a person’s religious beliefs, or lack thereof, it should be easy to see that every human being started out as “a clump of cells”, as the pro-choicers say, yet here we all are playing our role on this earth and making some sort of impact on day to day events and those around us. We all serve a purpose whether we can see that or not.

    My own life would not be what it is today if a few young women had thought of life as disposable. 6 people have come into my life through adoption, and I can’t imagine life without them. My aunt adopted 4 children, and my great-aunt adopted 2. Obviously, they have all made an impact on myself and my family, as well as countless other people. The world would not be the same if they weren’t here. I have only met one biological parent of my adopted family members, and I am excited to be meeting another one in a few weeks, but I have tremendous gratitude and respect for each of them for making the choice to give the child they created the chance at life that every human being rightfully deserves.

    I have never considered any of my adopted relatives being conceived a “mistake”. Poor timing and circumstances for their biological families, yes, but that is why they are all a part of my life today. To both of my aunts who were wishing so badly to have children, their existence was nothing short of a Godsend. I often hear this argument from pro-choicers that goes something like, “Adoption is great, but there are way too many children waiting to be adopted, and not enough families willing to adopt them. It would be better for the child to just be aborted than grow up in foster care.” This is simply not true. My aunt and uncle were put on a waiting list when they were trying to adopt my cousins. In fact, there are about 2 million couples currently waiting to adopt in the United States alone, which means that for each child who is put up for adoption, there are 36 couples waiting to try and adopt that child. That is a couple/child ratio of 1 to 36. Of course, pro-choicers and the left in general are great at twisting things around to fit their narrative. I agree that it is unfortunate for any child to grow up in foster care rather than a family of their own, but again, it is simply untrue that the number of children needing to be adopted is greater than the number of couples waiting to adopt. Many couples have to wait for YEARS to finally adopt a child.

I also hear pro-choicers argue that it isn’t fair for the mother to have to carry a child for 9 months and then give birth if she does not want to keep the child, and that it is unfair for her to have to face ridicule and feel ashamed of her pregnancy.  In my opinion, a human life is more important than a person’s feelings towards the consequences of their own (in most cases) choice. Don’t get me wrong- I don’t think anyone should shame or ridicule a girl or woman for being pregnant at the wrong time by any means at all. I find that to be cruel and entirely uncalled for. I do, however, find it even worse for such a woman to put her own feelings over the life that she has in part created. I’m sure that my adopted cousin’s birth mother faced a lot of emotional struggles as a pregnant 16-year-old, but she was able to look past her own feelings and think of what was best for her son. Despite the criticism and shame that I’m sure she had to deal with, she carried him for 9 months, gave birth to him, and acknowledged that he would be better off in the care of a couple who were prepared and able to raise a child. She made the right choice, rather than the selfish one of taking the easy way out.

Earlier in this article, I mentioned the “clump of cells” phrase that pro-choicers like to use. This is very illogical to me, as even one cell is enough to be considered life. At week 5 of a pregnancy, the brain, heart, and spinal cord of the fetus begin to develop. By 8 weeks, the fetus reacts to touch, and after 20 weeks, the fetus reacts to stimuli that would be considered painful to an adult human. For example, the fetus will recoil when a painful stimulus is applied. As with animals, we have no way of proving that an unborn child can feel pain, but based on their reactions to such things, I think it is safe to say that they can, just as we feel safe saying that a limping, whimpering dog is in pain. Abortions at 9 weeks involve a doctor dilating the cervix, inserting a tool called a cannula into the uterus, and then shredding apart and suctioning the fetus and placenta into a jar. The uterus is then scraped clean. As I stated before, the fetus reacts to touch at 8 weeks. In abortions that happen at 23 weeks, the cervix is also dilated. The fetus has body parts such as its limbs ripped off with a large clamp-like tool and removed from the uterus. The doctor tears the body apart and removes everything but the head, which is crunched in order to be pulled out of the uterus. In either case, the unborn baby is being shredded alive.

In many cases, the mother goes on to have emotional trauma, such as depression because of the abortion. Several studies have shown that within the first few weeks of having an abortion, 40-60 percent of women who were a part of the studies reported negative reactions to their abortion. After 8 weeks, 55 percent of these women reported feelings of guilt, 44 percent reported nervous disorders, 36 percent reported trouble sleeping, 31 percent reported feelings of regret about their abortion, and 11 percent were prescribed psychotropic medications by their doctor. Besides this, many of them also faced “serious psychiatric complications”, sexual dysfunctions, repression of feelings that resulted in behavioral and psychological problems, and emotional crisis decades later at the onset of menopause, the youngest child leaving the house, or the anniversary of the abortion or due date of the baby. Pro-choicers from the left can’t claim that they are pro-women if they are comfortable with this reality.

If I was pregnant and in a situation where I was unfit or unable to care for the child, I would rather go through 9 months of pregnancy, even if that meant being ridiculed by others, and give the child to a family that was better fit to provide the child the life that they rightfully deserve than to extinguish their life before it even begins only to live a lifetime of pain and regret over my decision. Gaining a lifetime of unhappiness is not worth sparing yourself 9 months of discomfort.

With all of this being said, abortion is never the better option. While many people may view it as easier for both the mother and society, in reality, it is nothing more than ending a purposeful and valuable human life and damaging another (or in lots of cases, many others). Mother Teresa said, “Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what it wants.” I think that she put it very well- abortion is another thing politicians from the left will use to get what they want, which is support and votes. The morality is meaningless to them so long as it gets people to support them.

Abortion isn’t about women’s rights. It’s not about “bettering society”. It’s about cold-hearted, science denying, and corrupt politicians promoting legal murder for political gain.